Today am thinking about...

Oct. 28, 2020

Do you focus well on what's important? Or, do you bounce from "shiny object" to "shiny object"??! That was how I lived the bulk of my life. I, now, have pretty much learned to prioritize.

I still glance up, when they appear - I AM still human, you know; but I no longer shape my life around their pursuit - with their promises to "live better", and "new, and improved", etc.

I focus on making myself live better and be a more improved version of myself. That is where TRUE change will happen; and if more people could focus on that, and "keep their eyes on their own paper" - we could see REAL change in our world. But, ya know...

So, I focus on me, inside and my immediate surroundings. It is a lonely place, at times; but compared to how I previously lived...I will take it!!! #RealityRocks

Here's hoping you have a great day, and be safe... #2020seeclearly #JusTSpInnIngPlaTes  #OctoberisDomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth

Oct. 20, 2020

I think mine has been with me most of my life. I don't really remember a time I felt free from people "finding out about secrets in my life"; although it wasn't all MY shame. I unknowingly/unwillingly accepted a good bit of the "generational shame".

That's what a lot of my work has been, over the last nearly 30 years. I had to figure out what was MY shame, and what came to me, generationally.

Working on shame is NOT a linear process. I  had to work on mine similar to how one eliminates debt in their lives. At times, it's the largest debt/shame story; but not necessarily the oldest or newest, you have to deal with, first.

You deal with each item as it comes up - pay down/pay off what you can, figure out what is, and isn't YOUR shame; and as you delete each debt/shame story, the weight on your chest lessens, and you start to breath easier, no longer jumping when the phone rings. See the similarities?

Do you know when yours started, and if it's yours, or "generational"? Do you think it might be time to take a look?

Have a good day, and be safe... #2020seeclearly #JusTSpInnIngPlaTes

Oct. 13, 2020

It's my Birthday, so everything is my choice, today, right??! Here are some random things I have learned - at times, the hard way:

I am most creative when dealing with my pain. Sometimes, this is MOST annoying; but, it is what it is... #doubleedgedsword ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰

Switch up the "loser symbol" -

Make symbol with both hands; put thumb-tips together, bend up, and make a W, for Winner,  Wisdom, etc...๐Ÿคจ๐Ÿคจ๐Ÿคจ

Listen more/talk less... #wisdomofthewalkiewithnotalkie ๐Ÿคซ๐Ÿคซ๐Ÿคซ

Who's quiet?

Monks & intelligent people.

Since I am not a Monk, am I intelligent? YES!!! ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿค”๐Ÿค”

There's power in:

- Honesty

- Integrity

- Responsibility

- Commitment

- Truth

- Accountability


Courage + Acceptance = Wisdom ๐Ÿ˜ฒ๐Ÿ˜ฒ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

I tell people, all the time, what a deep pool I am...sometimes, you just don't know what's IN the pool... ๐Ÿ’ฉ๐Ÿ’ฉ๐Ÿ’ฉ

I just wanted to share some recent insights I have had. Like I tell my friends - "You know what comes out my mouth, you should see what stays in my head!!!" #themoreyouknow ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

Have a great day, and be safe!!! #2020seeclearly 

Oct. 11, 2020

Has someone ever hurt your feelings, and then "laughed it off", or said, "I was just kidding", etc, when you called them out on it?

Yet, you know, that if it was the other way around, they wouldn't let YOU off, so easy?

Do you actually feel bad, when this happens??! ๐Ÿ–๐Ÿ–๐Ÿ–

Yeah - that has been me, more often than I like to admit. It's not comfortable; and it messes with your head.

I have been speaking up, and speaking back;  not defending myself - just stating the fact that I deserve the same respect I give the other person.

When you start doing this, it may not always "come out right", and they'll probably get mad, saying something, like, "Nobody talks to me, that way!!!", etc.

Does that make them right, and you wrong??! NOPE!!!

If you hurt my feelings, you do NOT get to turn it around, and make it all about you; or throw past "slights" on my part, in my face. "That's a conversation for you to start ANOTHER time."

My current feelings are my feelings...and deserve to be heard, completely...

Have a good day, and be safe...