Today am thinking about...

Nov. 12, 2019

(part 4 in a series about Self)

I often struggle with feeling selfish, when all I am really doing is taking care of my needs. I share what they are, and expect them.

Now, that's where it gets a bit sketchy - should I ALWAYS get my way? No, THAT would be selfish.

We, as women, generally, are so programmed to be caregivers, that when we try to take care of ourselves - whether from an internal or external source, we are made to feel selfish.

I have never married, nor had children (not a mistake!!!); but still struggle with this, at times.

Making sure you eat, and get enough sleep, every day, is one form of self care; and is NOT selfish. Neglecting your needs, not wants, is not selfish, either.

Just be sure to ALWAYS remember #youAREworthwhile - YOUR needs DO matter!!!

Have a good day, and be safe...

Nov. 5, 2019

(Part Three in the Series About Self...)

When you hear these words, what comes to your mind? Long, luxurious bubble baths, or coffee by the lake in a big comfy chair?

While those do represent one form of self-care; there are as many forms of self-care, as there are people in the world.

For some, it is sitting down with a cuppa for even five minutes, before starting housework, or changing that ever-poopy diaper.

Even if you have to do it while you're on the toilet, you rock-star Moms, take a moment to think about the fact you are alive and ticking, and you are doing your very best!!!

No one else's opinions matter - think about your kids, when you hand them that cookie,  or that split-second after you give your teen a kiss on the cheek - and treasure those moments.

If no kids, like me, I  get Motion-kitty cuddles when I least expect them. Take ALL the "moments" you get. Ponder them, treasure them...THAT, my Friend is just another example of self-care. Don't make it so difficult...

Have a good day, and be safe...

Nov. 1, 2019

I am Queen of Excuses!!! Not a character flaw I am particularly proud of, but there you are.

I try really hard to overcome this, and I do well, for awhile; but then something happens  to throw my focus in a spin, and I try to "I know, but..." my way through!!! Ugh!!!

I just realized, this morning, that I have not posted a Blog post since August!!! I have made a couple videos, and written and posted my #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE Blog posts; but MY passion,  MY Blogging has been AWOL!!!

I admit, I was focused on my trip to Sedona, Arizona, last month to visit my Family; but that is just ANOTHER excuse.

To my defense, though I have not written, I have been working on myself, and getting my shitt together, so to speak; so have not been wasting all my time. Been SpInnIng PlaTes!!!

Aaand I DO have 9 titles for Blog posts - just haven't written them!!! (I got 3 titles, while in AZ!!!) SOOO, the news isn't all bad, I guess. Plus, I will complete the "Self..." series.

Anyhoo, I hope you all are doing well; and I DO appreciate all of your support in my endeavors!!!

Have a good day, and be safe!!!

Aug. 22, 2019

(Part Two, in the "Series About Self...")

I personally used to think these two phrases meant the same about you??! Now, I understand the difference.

Self-Consciousness puts a bit of a negative spin on just about everything you try to do, in life. As a kid, and even now, at times, my extremely pale skin makes me feel a little self-conscious; especially since I am overweight. 

I have learned to put a bit of a spin on my self-consciousness, however, to make it a more positive thing. I'm still VERRRY aware of my extremely pale skin; but I have started to be all of my tan friend's "resident pale person", when they want to feel REALLY tan!!!

Self-Awareness, is knowing your insecurities, and showing up with your head held high, regardless. I was painfully backward as a child, and teenager; but I did have moments (with a push from my family, & sometimes even myself) where I overcame that shyness and accomplished a little bit of leadership.

As in everything in life, perspective makes the difference. I wear clothes that make ME comfortable. Usually capris, or shorts - or regular pants rolled up to the knee - my "friend of color" once told me, "You know exposing your legs to the sun, like that, will not make them darker." I tag him with EVERY Casper, or pale joke that comes up on!!!

This is just one thing I have felt self-conscious about - what struggles have you had? If you would like to have a one on one consult, just email me at I am not an expert, but I've been around awhile, seen some stuff, and learned a few things about life...lets chat!!!

Have a good day, and be safe...

Aug. 14, 2019

The next few posts will involve the word "Self". I kept coming up with titles with that word, and trying to spread them out; while on the on the other hand,  trying to work on a series. BINGO!!! LOL

Ok, when you talk to yourself, people question your mental faculties. That is why I have adapted the "Staff Meeting" response, when people ask if I AM talking to myself. But, I digress.

What I am talking about in "Self-Talk", is that internal dialogue - the ongoing one. From, "What are you taking for lunch, today?"; to the more important, "How can I live my life more to my TRUE potential, today?"

That is the important, rubber-meets-the-road kind of dialogue I like to have with myself. (Not that lunch doesn't matter.)

My personal goal is to have a positive effect on at least ONE, maybe two people, daily. More, if there's time - it happens.

This starts with what you say to yourself, inside your head - or out loud, if need be. What is YOUR life going to mean today?
Have you ever tried it?

Did you know that waves  crashing onto the beach, started as a tiny ripple, somewhere else. On a small lake you can see it demonstrated more easily.

This is how Self-Talk can effect you, and those around you - you make the choice if that's a positive, or negative effect, by what comes out of your mouth. Did you KNOW you HAVE that much power??! Use it wisely - you, and those around you depend on it. 😉😉😉

Have a good day, and be safe...