Today am thinking about...

Aug. 22, 2019

(Part Two, in the "Series About Self...")

I personally used to think these two phrases meant the same thing...how about you??! Now, I understand the difference.

Self-Consciousness puts a bit of a negative spin on just about everything you try to do, in life. As a kid, and even now, at times, my extremely pale skin makes me feel a little self-conscious; especially since I am overweight. 

I have learned to put a bit of a spin on my self-consciousness, however, to make it a more positive thing. I'm still VERRRY aware of my extremely pale skin; but I have started to be all of my tan friend's "resident pale person", when they want to feel REALLY tan!!!

Self-Awareness, is knowing your insecurities, and showing up with your head held high, regardless. I was painfully backward as a child, and teenager; but I did have moments (with a push from my family, & sometimes even myself) where I overcame that shyness and accomplished a little bit of leadership.

As in everything in life, perspective makes the difference. I wear clothes that make ME comfortable. Usually capris, or shorts - or regular pants rolled up to the knee - my "friend of color" once told me, "You know exposing your legs to the sun, like that, will not make them darker." I tag him with EVERY Casper, or pale joke that comes up on fb...lol!!!

This is just one thing I have felt self-conscious about - what struggles have you had? If you would like to have a one on one consult, just email me at beamererin@yahoo.com. I am not an expert, but I've been around awhile, seen some stuff, and learned a few things about life...lets chat!!!

Have a good day, and be safe...

Aug. 14, 2019

The next few posts will involve the word "Self". I kept coming up with titles with that word, and trying to spread them out; while on the on the other hand,  trying to work on a series. BINGO!!! LOL

Ok, when you talk to yourself, people question your mental faculties. That is why I have adapted the "Staff Meeting" response, when people ask if I AM talking to myself. But, I digress.

What I am talking about in "Self-Talk", is that internal dialogue - the ongoing one. From, "What are you taking for lunch, today?"; to the more important, "How can I live my life more to my TRUE potential, today?"

That is the important, rubber-meets-the-road kind of dialogue I like to have with myself. (Not that lunch doesn't matter.)

My personal goal is to have a positive effect on at least ONE, maybe two people, daily. More, if there's time - it happens.

This starts with what you say to yourself, inside your head - or out loud, if need be. What is YOUR life going to mean today?
Have you ever tried it?

Did you know that waves  crashing onto the beach, started as a tiny ripple, somewhere else. On a small lake you can see it demonstrated more easily.

This is how Self-Talk can effect you, and those around you - you make the choice if that's a positive, or negative effect, by what comes out of your mouth. Did you KNOW you HAVE that much power??! Use it wisely - you, and those around you depend on it. 😉😉😉

Have a good day, and be safe...

Aug. 9, 2019

"...not given us the Spirit of Fear;  but of Power, and Love, and a Sound Mind...".

I have known this verse most of my life. It has gotten me through many situations, over the years.

Working where I work, and holding the position I hold, at this time, is bringing this to my mind, daily.

Some days, all I am is talk - the fear is SOOO rampant; other days, I truly feel strong. I just never know.

Y'all have been with me, in my struggles to gain what I call "legit positivity".

These days, that struggle IS real; but I do know that verse above, in my heart. Keeping it in my mind...well...

I know I cannot, and WILL not let fear rule my life...I just can't!!!

JusT SpInnIng my PlaTes...and keeping it real...

Have a good day, and be safe...

Jul. 24, 2019

10 Ways to Detach (and NOT lose your mind)...

1) Don't give advice, unless asked.

2) Leave the room, if you can't be quiet.

3) Focus on self, not what they "should be doing".

4) Let them experience their own choices. (*or consequences.)

5) Stop focusing on their behavior.

6) Remove the kids, before it becomes unsafe.

7) Don't nag them about their responsibilities.

8) Only help when asked. (*but DO NOT give out of YOUR "need to help".)

9) Compliment what they ARE doing well.

10) Let yourself off the hook - it is NOT your problem.

michellefarris / www.counselingrecovery.com
(*I added)

Jul. 17, 2019

It sure is mine!!! I often, uncomfortably, joke that I will be "late to my own funeral".

Just when I think I have a handle on my "problem", I go through a major "late phase". I truly mean NO disrespect, and am not trying to make excuses.

It is something I learned (apparently very well) very young, in my life. Often, if my Father had to be somewhere 20 minutes away, he would leave 10 minutes before he had to be there; and gripe at traffic, and all that got in his way!!!

Though it has a name, as in description above, it does not make me feel any better; and I HAVE made improvements, over the years. As a general rule, I am either very early, or running late.

I believe, as I continue my efforts, that the pendulum swing will level out.

I DO set alarms, and am attempting to phase out all "snooze" time. That HAS worked for no longer laying in bed that extra half hour. There are also alarms for "Get Ready", and "Leave".

It is a process, and I WILL get there. It is NOT because I am not trying. Doesn't every Superhero have their "kryptonite"??!

Have a good day, and be safe...