Today am thinking about...
Are you trying to play "catch up", after 2020 did a slam-dunk, on you, and many others?
Step 1 -
Stop, and take a breath.
Realistically, is you making yourself crazy trying to catch-up from the "rug-out-from-under-you-2020" even possible??!
Start where you are right now. Focus on what, realistically, is possible to achieve, at THIS moment. Don't think about any moment, but THIS one.
Does that change the view, and possibly quiet some of the chaos, in your mind?
If it doesn't, repeat Step 1 - keep doing that until you are able to take ONE step at a time, without having a near anxiety attack.
I recently watched a Brene' Brown video on Super Soul Sunday, with Oprah. She pointed out, that, "...calm people are breathers...when they hear something, they take a breath...they ask questions...they ask themselves if they have enough data, before they freak out..."
This SCREAMED at me. I have always had a tendency to be a little, high-strung - by some people's definition??! I have been doing this, on my own, a bit, already - but I LOVE when something I read, or hear confirms I am on the right path!!! 😃😃😃
My hope for you, is that whether you are able to ease into a new lifestyle, or even if you're thrown kicking and screaming into something else, you will remember Step 1...it can change your life!!!
I'm living proof - I searched for years for good people to surround myself with - and, have made MANY good (and many bad) decisions to get where I am at this point. (And I am in NO way, discounting the role God has played in my life.)
Opportunities were presented, and I made choices - my path has been VERY busy (no "shortest path" for sure!!!) But I wouldn't change anything, because it ALL helped form who I am, today.
Have a good day, and be safe... #2021LATE beamererin.com firstname.lastname@example.org #JusTSpInnIngPlaTes
Some of mine are to have some "hard conversations", where I have had to keep things "pretty"; to satisfy other people's insecurities, in the past.
Now, I'm not going to come out with "guns blazing", so to speak; but when the opportunity arises, I plan to not back down, this time. I have seen some of what it's doing to me, inside; especially over this last year.
That is something I definitely intend for 2021 - to utilize what I've learned over this past year of a lot of solitude - similar to the growth I made, after my Mother passed. I WILL NOT let 2020 become a "wasted" year for me.
Many people have been trying to, almost shame, people into growth over this last year - when I know for a fact, a lot have been thrown into a tailspin, and barely making it through.
Please know I see you, and I want to encourage you to keep moving forward; even if you're crawling, or have to stop for a few beats to regroup. Not giving up is all that is desired, and expected of you. Growth is different, for everyone. Keep yours in sight.
Take some time to think about what you want to see happen, this year. While there are DEFINITELY things we all want to see - write down whatever you want to see, both big AND small. Realistic, or not. Just look for stuff - that could open up a whole plethora of positive thoughts that have been stuck for a very long time!!!
As Marie Forleo always says, "Everything is Figure-Outable!!!" This is open to however you interpret it - but I think starting with positive, will get you there, faster. However, if all you can think of is negativity - GET THAT STUFF OUT!!! Clearing out the clutter will make room for the good stuff!!!
Starting somewhere is the key - even if you start over EVERY day, periodically. I hear every day is a new day, anyway??! 😉😉😉
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...of the proverbial "tunnel of life". This will replace #2020seeclearly, as the hashtag for 2021 - #2021LATE.
I was sitting there, one day, thinking about 2020, and how we're ALL looking for the light at the end of this pandemic "tunnel", and it hit me - HASHTAG!!! 😉😉😉
It was definitely a moment for me - while I know there are those among that rarely understand a lot of what I think about - it doesn't matter - I still have to get it out, before I implode!!! lol
But, seriously, I do like it, and it kinda fits, don't you think? No matter what age you are, you're still kinda bearing down the railway of life, right? Why not fill it, intentionally? I know there is stuff that must happen; but there is other time-space to fill - make it your own!!!
It's ONE thing you CAN control - your reaction to things (after those dreaded knee-jerk ones, of course). But, after you get back up - face them, and they either back down, or seem to get bigger - you got a 50/50 shot!!! Take it!!!
That's what bandages are for - those attempts in life, where you took a chance...or sometimes, you just stood up.
Either way, I would rather have my life ending, knowing I did what I could. Wouldn't you?
Have a good day, and be safe...and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! #2020seeclearly beamererin.com firstname.lastname@example.org #JusTSpInnIngPlaTes #2021LATE
When I was a Senior in High School, the final morning bell rang at 8:15. I would get up at 8, and my Mother would drive me the approximate 6 blocks to school, and I made it right on time!!!
Those days are LOOOONG gone. At least the getting up 15 minutes before I had to be somewhere. I now get up at least 3 hours before I work - even if I start at 7am. The caveat there, is when I sometimes work til 10 or 11, the night before; but, that is MY time to chill before I go to my often stressful retail job.
I have considered adapting it - but I worked so hard to get to the "me time", I don't want to mess with my flow, ya know??!
Now, does this mean I make it to work really early, every day? No!!! But that is slowly improving...lol. Baby steps, right??! Can't get all amazing at once!!! 😉😉😉
There are "night people", "morning people" - 24 hours to choose from. When you take the time to figure out what you are, it can help with your sleep, your mental well-being, even your overall health.
Even on my days off, I have a set time to get up. I used to hear professionals say you needed to get up, and go to bed at the same time, every day, to take care of yourself. Well, since I do shift-work, and my hours are so wonky; I was looking at up every day at 5, and in bed by midnight. Hard no!!!
Once my brain kinda kicked in, and a solution started to form, so did my sleep improvement. Now, if I could just control some of my "work dreams"!!! But, I digress.
How often have I said, "I can only do what I can do.", right??! The important part is to make ME a priority and do what I can.
I challenge you, as you are possibly thinking of self-improvements to make as the New Year approaches, to make YOU your number one priority, and do what you can. Remember, you ARE worthwhile...
Wishing you a wonderful Holiday Season, have a great day, and be safe... #2020seeclearly beamererin.com email@example.com #JusTSpInnIngPlaTes
Almost every movie portrays those "Pie in the Sky", huge, EPIPHANOUS moments, that make everyone around say, "Wow!!! That's amazing!!!", etc.
Let's be honest - how often do we really get those, in REAL life??! I've had a few; but they're far and few between. You??!
I have always been a noticer; and fascinated by those little things. I had someone say to me once, "When you say you still can't believe they are (insert minor thing here)...how do you think that makes (insert name here) feel?"
That had an impact on me. It was after I read, in "The Gifts of Imperfection" (by Brene' Brown), about a similar story, that it hit me. Since that moment, in the early 80s, I had been making myself even "smaller" than I felt, before. WHAT??! Shall we say my self-esteem had NEVER been my strong-suit??!
Now, granted, there is NO need for me to be all "grandiose" about every little thing I feel; but I should NEVER let anything anyone else says me make me feel "smaller".
My natural motivation IS to encourage, support, etc; but it isn't always "pretty". There are hard, honest conversations that need to happen, periodically; and when they can't, the relationship suffers. Have had this many times.
But, that's for another post. I will leave you with this - never stop noticing...honestly share what you see, when you can. Never stop being the amazing you, that you are...
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