Oct. 10, 2014

Forgiveness... (Originally posted 9/23/14)

Someone shared on Facebook - "People are confused about forgiveness: It's not about excusing someone's actions...it's about NOT allowing THEIR actions to hurt you anymore." I think this was one of the hardest principles to grasp on my healing journey. Growing up in the church as I did, I knew Jesus had forgiven his persecutors, etc. What I did NOT take into consideration, was that Jesus: 1) was in constant prayer FOR stuff like that; 2) I had NOT STUDIED the Bible - just took what people told me, quoted scripture, etc, kind of like a cliche, or "pat answer" (DKH) to be placed on any situation like a bandaid; or as I told my counselor once - "a bandaid WRAPPER!!!" Forgiveness, to me, was something preached, but not really delved into by myself, or MOST of the people I considered my "support people". We are to be like Jesus; He forgave, I should. Problem solved, right? NOT!!! I felt worse, & kept feeling I was NEVER going to get it right. MOST of the people I was surrounded by were "living the dream", so to speak. Giving all their problems to God, moving on with their lives, etc. What the heck was wrong with me? Even taught about building your house on solid ground vs sand; but NEVER GRASPED the concept. Plus, forgiving was to be for the OTHER person. Never read about Jesus forgiving Himself, right??! I almost said, "I wish Social Media had been around when I was a kid"; but strike that. Until you're READY to forgive, be it yourself, or anyone else; there is USUALLY a process. I mean it CAN be an immediate thing, like love at first sight; but more often than not, true, bottom-line-moving-on-with-your-life forgiveness WILL take time. It's ok, even if you don't "get it right the first time", too. It's a process, & sometimes the process DOES suck; but it's a process nevertheless. Have a good day & be safe...