Feb. 7, 2017

The Possible Price of Honesty...

In the last few days, I've had 2 different situations come up, where I had to be totally honest with a friend, and see the hurt in their eyes. I can't really say either situation ended necessarily well; but in the second situation, at least they're still my friend.  However, that is not the basis of my honesty.

I would NEVER intentionally hurt an enemy, let alone a friend; but when I make a commitment to be a friend to someone, honesty at all cost is an unspoken "part of the deal". I'm far from perfect, but I do try and keep to my core affirmations of Honesty, Integrity, Responsibility, Commitment and Truth. My life-goal is to be able to make every decision based on these five beliefs. Although, I have to admit, some days this is definitely easier than others.

Figuratively, it's not the easiest of lanes to take, but I have to be able to look myself in the mirror. I lived my life not being true to myself for so many years, I can no longer "roll" that way. When I make the less than appropriate choice to pull into that lane - chaos ensues. It's as if all I can hear is static, and I have to get myself out of there - my life will not be on course until I do.

It isn't a matter of being right, either. I know it's "Sometimes better to be wrong, than to lose a friend". I can only say what I see. If my view IS wrong, I'm open to discuss it. However, in way too many situations in the past, I wish people would have proven my views were wrong; rather than just giving up on the relationship. Hopefully, I have grown since then, and as I said, I'm far from perfect.

I also, expect honesty from other people. I would definitely rather deal with a little "fallout" from them being honest, up front; than find out later they hadn't been honest with me.

Thank you, have a good day, and be safe...