"Your Opinion of Me Does NOT Matter..."
...however, are there any "nuggets of truth" in what has been said? That's what you REALLY need to look at.
Regardless of the "delivery", which may, at times, come across as harsh or feel like they're just trying to hurt you; if you listen to the person's heart, does that make a difference? Rather than coming from your place of pain?
This is the standard with which you need to measure any type of advice, or criticism - whether asked for, or not; is there ANY truth? Plus, is this a person you would even go to, if you needed advice?
My intent is NOT really to answer questions with more questions - but as with most things, it's not that cut and dried. My goal is just to make people think.
Have a good day, and be safe...