DO People Really Treat You the Way You Treat Yourself??!
Begging the inquiry - how DO you treat yourself? Are you, and YOUR needs a priority - or are you so busy meeting other's needs and expectations, that you plan to take care of yours "when you have time"??!
Do you hear yourself??! Exactly when IS that time? Are you still only going to have 24 hours tomorrow, and the next day, etc??! (I do understand the difference if you have small children; but don't forget YOUR oxygen mask on first!!!)
When you plan to spend time with someone else, and they sort of "pencil you in", meaning they will hang with you, unless something else comes up; how does that make you feel?
I know, as I was working on my issues, especially after my Mother passed, I tried not to make many plans, especially outside of my previous commitments; and at times, couldn't even go to them - (work, counseling, chiropractor...).
I had to make myself a priority - I was mentally/emotionally unwell, and had to get better.
I try to be a cautionary tale to people I know. When I see my people not taking care of themselves, it tears my heart - and I think I get angry at them, for "not taking care of my Friend". But then, I look deeper, and it's usually of their own making - so, I get a little sad for them.
I cannot let myself become codependent, so I usually just back off. My commitment doesn't waver, just my presence. I choose to be positive, and have worked very hard to get where I am. I cannot enmesh myself in anyone's life, again.
In writing all this, as in all my Blogging, I do not claim to know it all - am DEFINITELY a work in progress. But I do have a responsibility to share what I've learned with others.
So, I ask again, do people really treat you the way you treat yourself?
Now, what are you gonna do about it??!
Have a good day, and be safe...