Example of What Codependency is...and Isn't...
Here's one, recently recalled, true story of my codependent past.
My bff, and I shared a babysitting job of 3 kids. The town we grew up in had an Annual Firemen's Festival. You know the kind, with multiple rides, and miscellaneous attractions in/on semi-trailers?
There was a haunted house set up. I DO NOT like them, ok; but the middle child was almost in tears, wanting to go through it, so badly.
So, I caved, and she and I (my bff wasn't going to do it) started through. As we stepped on the FIRST trigger mechanism, she started crying and screaming to get out. Now, the only exit, except in an emergency (meaning life or death), was at the other end of the attraction.
We went through the ENTIRE display, with her death-grip on my hand and her eyes closed, tightly; walking slowly. As we reached each trigger, I said, "OK, step over this.", and so on - do you know how long it took us??!
I, also recently, have figured out my "Anti-Codependent" purpose. Btw, I am VERY excited by this revelation!!! 😉😉😉
I am like ANY yellow traffic sign - they make you aware to be cautious in the area. For example, "Taggart St is 45 mph, until you get to the curve - then, it's SUGGESTED you go 35 mph; but it's YOUR CHOICE, whether you do or not."
You are the one who has to deal with the consequences of your actions. It's not my, or anyone else's, job to protect you from those consequences.
Is the "codependent" strong, in your life??! (Sorry, I've been watching a lot of Star Wars...). Would love to hear your stories.
Have a good day, and be safe... #2020seeclearly beamererin.com