Do You Have Good "Boundaries"??!
...or do you, even inadvertently, issue commands?
In reading the quote below, I have realized that at times, in my efforts to assert myself, I have often unintentionally issued commands.
(Rebecca A posted in a FB page I am on) -
"Leave blame out of it -
One definition of boundaries I heard that was so empowering is this:
- A command is telling someone else what to do, a boundary is telling someone what you are or are not going to do.
Command: 'don’t call me.' - (actually focusing on controlling their actions)
Boundary: 'I will not be answering any calls this afternoon.'
'I will have my phone on do not disturb after 10pm.'
'If you call me while I am working, I will ignore the call.'
'I will be blocking your number.' " -
(Statements focused entirely on yourself and actions you CAN control)
This was eye-opening to me, as I have been learning about boundaries throughout my entire healing process, over nearly 30 years; proving that no one EVER really arrives at the end of it - which I DID know, btw...😉😉😉
It was just the "Boundary PlaTe of Knowledge" SpInnIng into view...see why I use SpInnIng PlaTes??!
Have a good day, and be safe... #2021LATE beamererin.com #JusTSpInnIngPlaTes firstname.lastname@example.org