Aug. 31, 2021

Other's Feelings...and Me...

One of the biggest struggles in my life is remembering that other people's feelings about different situations are THEIR feelings, and do NOT invalidate my feelings about the same situation, and that is ok.

It is in no way an attack on anyone - just how they feel. There is no right or wrong, in the moment they express them.

I think this is where we, as a society, have gotten off-track - trying to "keep everyone happy".

While expressing your feelings is not wrong -  using your feelings to try to control a person, or situation is where the problem could arise.

The flip-side, is making yourself crazy trying people-please; or even worse, trying to change their mind, in that moment.

Somewhere, deep in the middle, is the delicate, at times elusive, balance.

Take a beat, the next time someone expresses an opinion you disagree with. Does their opinion affect you in any way, shape, or form? Maybe, just acknowledge they spoke, and move on. This is my life-goal...perhaps WE can be the change we want to see?

Have a good day, and be safe... #2021LATE ****** #JusTSpInnIngPlaTes