Today am thinking about...

Aug. 9, 2019

"...not given us the Spirit of Fear;  but of Power, and Love, and a Sound Mind...".

I have known this verse most of my life. It has gotten me through many situations, over the years.

Working where I work, and holding the position I hold, at this time, is bringing this to my mind, daily.

Some days, all I am is talk - the fear is SOOO rampant; other days, I truly feel strong. I just never know.

Y'all have been with me, in my struggles to gain what I call "legit positivity".

These days, that struggle IS real; but I do know that verse above, in my heart. Keeping it in my mind...well...

I know I cannot, and WILL not let fear rule my life...I just can't!!!

JusT SpInnIng my PlaTes...and keeping it real...

Have a good day, and be safe...

Jul. 24, 2019

10 Ways to Detach (and NOT lose your mind)...

1) Don't give advice, unless asked.

2) Leave the room, if you can't be quiet.

3) Focus on self, not what they "should be doing".

4) Let them experience their own choices. (*or consequences.)

5) Stop focusing on their behavior.

6) Remove the kids, before it becomes unsafe.

7) Don't nag them about their responsibilities.

8) Only help when asked. (*but DO NOT give out of YOUR "need to help".)

9) Compliment what they ARE doing well.

10) Let yourself off the hook - it is NOT your problem.

michellefarris / www.counselingrecovery.com
(*I added)

Jul. 17, 2019

It sure is mine!!! I often, uncomfortably, joke that I will be "late to my own funeral".

Just when I think I have a handle on my "problem", I go through a major "late phase". I truly mean NO disrespect, and am not trying to make excuses.

It is something I learned (apparently very well) very young, in my life. Often, if my Father had to be somewhere 20 minutes away, he would leave 10 minutes before he had to be there; and gripe at traffic, and all that got in his way!!!

Though it has a name, as in description above, it does not make me feel any better; and I HAVE made improvements, over the years. As a general rule, I am either very early, or running late.

I believe, as I continue my efforts, that the pendulum swing will level out.

I DO set alarms, and am attempting to phase out all "snooze" time. That HAS worked for no longer laying in bed that extra half hour. There are also alarms for "Get Ready", and "Leave".

It is a process, and I WILL get there. It is NOT because I am not trying. Doesn't every Superhero have their "kryptonite"??!

Have a good day, and be safe...

Jul. 9, 2019

Don't you just LOVE when you're in a group of people, and some of them start trying to "One-up", each other??!

Honestly, this could go on for DAYS!!! I usually get bored, VERRRY quickly, and just walk away.

You see...I have no competition - well, technically, just myself. That is about all I can handle. My self-esteem is basically just fine, also.

It really saddens me, when this happens. It is usually the ones that everyone "looks up to", and thinks are "the strongest".

I see them as the weakest, and least likely to try ANYTHING new. They're content to regale anyone that will listen, with the conquests they have made in their PAST life. Kind of pathetic, don't you think?

I would rather be out there, falling on my face or my butt, most of the time; but still out there trying...wouldn't you??!
No "Contest" happening here...

Have a good day, and be safe...

Jul. 1, 2019

Have you ever done something, be it pick an outfit or pair of shoes to wear, to changing your life-course 180 degrees; and people close to you look at you like you sold the cow or crop that could have brought in a boatload of money, for a handful of magic beans.

That is the look I have gotten a LOT in my life, because I tend to make those..."left-field" decisions in life. They have all worked in my favor, thus far, because I am following MY path. Plus, even if I made a wrong decision, until you're dead, changes can still be made, right??! The path may just be a little longer, sometimes. More to observe!!! 😉😉😉

People who are closest to us, and only want the best for us give us that look, because they care so much; and yes, there are those that just don't matter as much, that just think you've lost your freaking mind. Same look, by the way.

My point is this - you have GOT to walk your own path, in this life. Yes, there will be good decisions, aaaaand, those not-so-good decisions. There could be good windfall, and major consequences - whether a good decision, or not. This is life.

Some days, I am amazed at the progress and growth I have had in my life; and other days, I forget to unfasten the seatbelt before trying to exit the car. Again, this is life.

Are you making your life, or following the status quo? Are you happy with the life you have, right now? Are there changes YOU need to make, either small, or large? Are you prepared for someone to give YOU the "Look of the Magic Beans..."??!

Have a good day, & be safe...