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Oct. 26, 2020

Part of the transition from Victim to Survivor involves taking back the power that you have, probably unknowingly, given to your abusers. Yes, I said abuserS.

Whether you have been in many relationships, or not; the chances are that your power was taken years ago. Probably before you started dating, etc.

How was your childhood? How was your family life? Way into my 30s, even though I knew the truth waaaaay back in my head; I referred to my childhood as "Norman-Rockwell-photo-like". Really??! Not quite!!!

My Father was a Narcissist. I was sexually abused as a child, multiple times, causing me to make many bad choices over the years. The list could go on, but you get the picture. Like I said, the power was taken.

It wasn't until I admitted this - that I realized I carried so much shame for stuff that wasn't even my fault. World hunger? Yup, that was me.

It's a slow process; but someone once told me, "The process is the process." I still, as recently as this month, fell into a "shame-storm". I recognized it, and am working through it. It hits you like a ton of bricks.

I am standing in the knowledge that "You Do NOT Get To...control my life, shame!!!"

You can put any word, or person's name, after "You Do NOT Get To ...".

I hope this inspires you to start the process of taking back your power; and empowering yourself to making any changes in your life that may have been holding you back. Remember, you ARE worthwhile.

Thank you, have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV www.ozerministriesinc.com

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference?

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Oct. 19, 2020

You fear being home with them.

You never know what's going to set them off.

They act just like your Father did, right before he blew up.

You fear not having dinner on the table, when they walk through the door.

You fear the kids making too much noise.

You pray the dog doesn't jump up on him, again; until he's seated, and on his second  drink.

You don't understand why your Friends and Family keep asking if you're ok.

You pray the makeup works better, this time ‐ last time caused too many questions.

The kids have started blaming you for making your partner mad.

Why can't you just be a good partner, and not ask questions, like, "Where were you?"

You said you weren't going to have a relationship like your parents...

There are days you can do NOTHING right.

You're constantly reminded, "No one else will put up with you, like I do!!!"

What ARE you going to do about it??!

Thank you, have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV www.ozerministriesinc.com

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference?

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.


Oct. 5, 2020

- I had just made the dinner the same way, as always...

- The dog hadn't jumped up on him...

- The kids had just cleaned up their toys...

- I had said no, that first time...

- I had just let him out the door - would he have climbed out that window??!

- I had listened to my Daughter, when she said she felt uncomfortable...

- I had just let him in...

- I had filed charges...

- I had not gone back...

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference?

*I will be sharing a "What If..." posts on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com, or through Ozer, at the website or email, below. Thank you.

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV www.ozerministriesinc.com  ozerministries@att.net

Sep. 28, 2020

I have been asking myself this, more often, lately.

With October being Domestic Violence Awareness Month - I encourage you to ask this of yourself. Do you know, aside from a  Victim, who YOU are?

I am wondering aside from wife, Mother, partner, job title, etc. What makes YOU the amazing individual you are? Do you even realize how amazing you are?

Learning about this, could be the beginning of your healing process;  or a major "growth spurt", if you've already begun this journey.

There is NO time like the present, to start. Take a piece of paper, or a safe app on your phone, and write down everything you can think of about yourself - a column for each, positive AND negative. When you're done, cross off one negative and one positive that could be considered complete opposites - they cancel each other out - keep going til there are no more opposites.

Whatever you're left with, at the end, should be a good platform to start your quest to understanding who YOU are.

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV www.ozerministriesinc.com

Sep. 21, 2020

I know this topic seems to come up, a lot; it's only because it is so crucial to your healing process. When you know YOUR value, and take care of yourself on a regular basis, it will naturally trickle down into EVERY aspect of your life.

It affects your relationship with EVERY person you come in contact with - at home, your job, at the grocery store, church - any place you go.

I know when I'm not taking care of myself, even going through the drive-thru becomes a "gripe-fest"!!! I find myself cranky, judgmental, asking questions that have NO affect on me, whatsoever - even wondering why the people ahead didn't just go in, and get their order. Or bagging on the inefficiency of the establishment.

I used to be famous, among my friends, for my "Road Rage"!!! "I pity the fool" that got in my way. Not my proudest moments; but that is for another post. Anyway, when that happens, now, I turn on the radio - sometimes very loud - to distract my focus from what's making me tense (you know that person going the speed-limit in the area I usually push that envelope?). Yeah...

I work in retail, and in normal times, I'm definitely spent, and ready to leave, when it's time to clock out. Figure in this time of Covid, and it multiplies. I've been practicing shifting my focus, humming to myself, even giving other people compliments - as soon as I feel that "cranky" come on. I admit, am not perfect, and some co-workers have taken the hit. As soon as I realize it - I try to go, and apologize.

My relationships are my greatest asset.That is important to remember - especially your relationship with yourself. Remember, "you cannot pour from an empty cup"; and to "always put YOUR oxygen mask on, first".

As I've said before, self-care has as many faces, as there are people on the earth. The point is, that you need to look every day, to see where you can fit yours in - MAKE the time for it, no matter how long. YOU. ARE. WORTHWHILE.

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV www.ozerministriesinc.com