Sep. 7, 2019

Do you love YOURSELF enough?

Are you ALWAYS seeing to everyone else's needs, and making sure they're happy; but your needs, and happiness are setting lopsided, at best, on the back burner - and it's not even turned on!!!

This is something that can happen, not just in Domestic Violence situations; but EVERBODY is susceptible, especially in today's busy, busy world.

Do you realize, that taking care of you, is giving yourself the same love that you think everyone else deserves - and that YOU are just as deserving??!

Let that sink in - YOU ARE worthwhile...

That being said, I hope you will take some time to ponder this "new thought", and work it into your day-to-day activities.

Also, if someone in your current situation, mainly your partner/significant other, tries to tell you this isn't right, in any way; is it time to rethink that situation?

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV 

Aug. 30, 2019

Nowadays, it seems everyone is trying to control everything, about everybody.

But, in reality, if you think about it - what CAN you control:
What happens to you in life? No.
How other people feel about you? No.
Anything that happens in the world? No.

Now, take a moment, and think about what you CAN control:
How you react to what happens to you in life.
How you react to how other people feel about you.
How you react to anything that happens in the world.

Your reaction to basically ANY situation, is all the control you really have. This can be disconcerting, at first; but, how empowering is it, really??!

I'm going to ask you to think about this, and either respond to this via the post on social media, or directly on the website, or even me, directly -, with the header "What I Can Control...".
We would LOVE to hear your thoughts on this, or any other matter...

Thank you, have a good day, and be safe... #EtSoV #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE

Aug. 22, 2019

If you are in a relationship, and pool your finances - do you have equal access, as does your partner? Bills should come first, of course; but after that, or even with that, do you have access to the finances you need?

Many times, one person may use finances to control the other. Even to the point basics like bills, or groceries, etc, are misappropriated. 

They hold their partner "hostage", so that even if they wanted to leave the relationship, they couldn't. They usually use any means possible, but money is a biggie. 

If you discuss with your partner about more access to your mutual funds, and they tell you things like, "You know you're no good with money", or "Don't worry, I'll take care of all you need", or similar statements; with NO offer to work toward mutual money knowledge, you MAY want to see if you can push this topic further. 

Now, if this topic brings you absolute fear, are you in a good relationship? Should you revisit that? 

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV 

Aug. 12, 2019

Take a moment, and think about your life, right now.

Are you living your best life? Or is there a "dark, shadowy place, that you never go"? (A la Lion King)

What is in that place? Does it represent a part of you that you are ashamed of? Does that feeling of shame come from inside of YOU, or do you feel others are ashamed of you? Is it something you may need to study further?

Have you ever thought about WHY you feel shame? Is it a relationship with someone? Is it part of your relationship with yourself? If someone were to ask you about it, directly, would it make you angry?

Shame can do so much damage to ourselves, and our relationship with others. If you have made some negative choices, either now or in the past, isn't it time to lose that extra weight you carry?

Nothing happens overnight, so don't stress yourself, move toward a more positive outlook. If it's something you need to deal with, do it. Just start, somewhere...

Have a good day, and be safe...


Aug. 5, 2019

Did you know you could, and should do this?

Everybody thinks, in situations where abuse takes place, that forgiveness is only to be for the abuser - and that becomes a definite roadblock for most people.

They completely skip over the fact that, usually, the one they're the angriest with (and most hurt by) is usually themselves. For either allowing themselves to get in, or stay in their situation.

Now, think about a 5 year old victim of sexual abuse, by a family member. In their short life, this becomes all they know. They know in their heart, something isn't ok; but they're told if they tell anyone, bad stuff will happen. What does that do to a child??!

Fast-forward 25 years - they are now 30 years old, and still dealing with the repercussions of their 5 year old situation, PLUS the next 25 years of bad choices, promiscuity, and the very least.

Sure, there were some good times, but they were/are always shaded by the underlying darkness of the abuse.

Forgiving yourself is not easy. You can "coulda, shoulda, woulda" yourself for eternity - but what kind of life IS that??!

Take a moment. Is there stuff in YOUR past you are holding onto?  Maybe you feel you don't deserve forgiveness; or there's nothing to be forgiven for. Why? Have you ever thought about it? Is that the truth?

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV