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Jan. 18, 2021

Many movies portray those "Pie in the Sky", huge, EPIPHANOUS moments, that make everyone around say, "Wow!!! That's amazing!!!", etc. 

But, in real-life, how often do we get those??! I've had a few; but they're far and few between. You??! 

Having always been a noticer, fascinated by those little things; someone once said to me, "When you say you say things like, 'I can't believe this person is in my life", etc; how do you think that makes (insert name here) feel?" 

That had an impact on me. It was after I read, in "The Gifts of Imperfection" (by Brene' Brown), about a similar story, that it hit me. Since that moment, in the early 80s, I had been making myself even "smaller" than I felt, before. WHAT??! Shall we say my self-esteem had NEVER been my strong-suit??! 

Now, I realize, there is NO need for me to be all "grandiose" about every little thing I feel; but I should NEVER let anything anyone else says me make me feel "smaller". 

My natural motivation IS encouragement, support, etc; but it isn't always "pretty". There are hard, honest conversations that need to happen, periodically; and when they can't, the relationship suffers. I have had this happen many times - letting myself feel smaller, yet again.

But, that's for another post. I will leave you with this - never stop noticing...honestly share what you see, when you can. Never stop being the amazing you, that you are... 

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE www.ozerministriesinc.com #EtSoV #walkinTHEIRshoes

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.

Jan. 18, 2021

Let's just all agree that 2020 wasn't the year we all believed for on December 31, 2019; however, I do hope the the good outweighed the bad for y'all.

That being said, if you are/were involved in a Domestic Violence situation, I hope the stress of our collective experience didn't make your situation more brutal. Stress tends to exacerbate any already negative situations. I hope you are safe.

I, myself, am coming into 2021 with a new mindset. Every day is an opportunity to restart/reboot/refresh.

I encourage you to join me, in this quest. I do understand your reality will flavor your mindset; but, are you able to work for ANY changes, or readjustments?

I know that subtle changes can be made, if you're not at the "rip the bandaid off your situation" point; but always keep you and your children's safety in mind.

Contact a shelter; or if unable, contact a trusted friend, etc. As I've said, before, the path is NOT easy; but if you can, look at the bigger, overall picture.

Remember, NOBODY deserves to be abused...

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE www.ozerministriesinc.com #EtSoV #walkinTHEIRshoes

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Jan. 5, 2021

...I had left, as soon as I saw them bring all that alcohol into the house? 

...those ungrateful children had been satisfied with the inexpensive toys we ended up getting them, this year, because money was so tight? Maybe he wouldn't have broken them, in front of the crying group, and thrown them all away...they're only 3, 7, and 10... 

...the dog had just chased her new ball, when thrown? He may not have beaten her, in response... 

...we hadn't gone to my parents. Maybe they wouldn't have pouted like a "petulant teenager"; and the Holidays may have been a little more pleasant. 

...I had used the mixer to make the potatoes creamier, instead of hand mashing like my Mother always did. My burns are almost healed from them flinging them at me, right after I took them off the stove... 

...I had said no, when they me wanted to "try something new", sexually, with one of their friends. Then berate me the next day, because "it only happened because they were drunk"? I should have known better... 

...they hadn't seen the text of me sharing how abusive they were, with my bff. At least my bruises are easier to hide, this time... 

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes 

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Dec. 28, 2020

With this "unprecedented" (anybody else struggling to find a bigger word for this year??!) year comes to a conclusion, we hope this finds you safe.

I personally think that's a good intention for any time of year; but at the Holidays, I feel the need to stress it even more - especially as 2020 closes.

While nobody knows what the New Year holds, I still believe in hope. I have struggled with anxiety and depression, this year; but I still believe things will get better. Though I am not naive enough to think things will ever be the same.

I think THAT is one good thing to focus on - we're standing on the proverbial "cliff of life", overlooking ENDLESS possibilities!!!

Now, some people will look over the edge, and be more overwhelmed; while others will sit right down on that ledge, and see what can be accomplished by letting go, and just jumping into the new. While others may grab a swinging vine, and maybe try to jump over the new. The bottom line is, the new is coming, regardless.

While this year has proven there is so much we cannot control, how we react is one thing we can. I lose sight of this, periodically; but I have good, supportive people around me, that remind me, often.

There are people available, it may be a friend you've known for years; or it may be time to reach out, and find the help you need to start making some changes. Options. Choices. Intentions. We all have them - some just aren't aware of the fact they DO have them, or what they are. Is it time for you to reach out?

Wishing you a Happy New Year, have a great day, and please be safe...thank you... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE www.ozerministriesinc.com #EtSoV #walkinTHEIRshoes 

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.





Dec. 21, 2020

When I was growing up, Christmas Eve, and Christmas morning were magical.

No matter what I may ever say about my Father - he did Christmas morning justice. When I went to bed, as a child, on Christmas Eve, there was no tree decorated, and the house was like every other day of the year.

When I awoke - the Spirit of Christmas had arrived. My Father would stay up part of the night, until all was decorated and looking Merry. As the 4 kids awoke, they would knock on the parent's door, until all were awake, and ready to go downstairs in a train, with my Father as engine (kids in order by age) and my Mother as the caboose.

We went through the decorated living room with eyes closed (no peeking 😉😉😉), to the kitchen. Then, after breakfast of angel food cake, hot chocolate, and singing Happy Birthday to Jesus (my Mother read about it in a magazine, before they got married); we would run into the living room, and chaos ensued for awhile.

The tree had so many ornaments, garland, and icicles on it - you could barely see the tree. As we got older, we did get to help decorate, and some of the magic dissipated. But we each did get to hang our own ornament.

The train to the kitchen, and the breakfast food never changed. Well, except for the year we were at Christmas Eve service, and my Mother realized we had NO angel food cake for morning. The only thing that was open was a convenient store. Enter the "Twinkie substitution"!!! 🤣🤣🤣

I, honestly, have many holes in my memories - such as I don't really remember all 4 kids being home, and most Christmas Days did not end as magical - but, the magic is what kept me going through my hard times.

That's all we really can do, sometimes, is make the best of whatever situation we're dealt. There are always options - I had blinders for so many years; but it wasn't all bad. Isn't that what makes Domestic Violence so difficult to deal with?

We wish you the best for the Holiday season - thank you, have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV www.ozerministriesinc.com #walkinTHEIRshoes

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.