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Sep. 12, 2022

When I first began my healing process - I was in a very hurt and angry place. I wanted to rent a billboard and broadcast EVERY hurt, and EVERY perpetrator.

I did not, and I moved on from there - but we have to remember in our efforts to help people in THEIR healing process, to let them be where they are. To feel all their feelings.

Us trying to "dial them back" (which is really to make US more comfortable) will NOT help them.

Besides, the chances of them doing some of the wild ideas they come up with to get "revenge", etc, really are slim - and if they do, it will be their consequences for their own actions.

If we try and "control" them, and "make" them make better choices - haven't they been through that enough in their victimization?

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Sep. 6, 2022

...there was no Domestic Violence Awareness Month? (which is October, every year)

...there was no 24 hour line to call for help? (ie: Christina House Crisis Line - (330)420-0036)

...there were no Community Outreach Events (next year will be our EIGHTH Domestic Violence Awareness Art Exhibit, on August 26, 2023 - save the date, details to follow)

...nobody ever asked you if you were ok, after an incident you survived? (no matter how minor)

...Domestic Violence was never covered by any television shows? (whether talk shows, or dramas)

Would you feel you were worthwhile to fight for? Maybe start one of those events, or found a Hotline, etc; or would you just go your entire life, and die knowing you were a Victim, and that was just your "lot in life"?

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Aug. 31, 2022

Often, when Victims finally make the full realization that they ARE Victims of Domestic Violence, the first response inside their heads is something like, , "How could I be so stupid??! I really thought they loved me!!! How could I let this happen to myself??!", etc.

Shame is why they seem to be so resistant to any assistance that's offered, because it, again often,  develops into, "I did this to myself, so I have to get myself out of this. I don't deserve any better, because it's all my fault.", etc.

Which quickly moves into overwhelm, and depression - which are both utterly paralyzing.

Then, anger - in which they get almost defiant, because, "Why is this happening to me??! This is NOT what I signed up for!!!", etc.

There are so many layers to get through, that, honestly, unless you've done any kind of personal healing, it seems like they're just "choosing to stay in their situation".

Again, this not exhaustive, but maybe giving a little insight into the mind of a Victim.

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Aug. 28, 2022

This is the initial idea I had for a project for our 7th Annual Art Exhibit, this past weekend.

It begins with the abuse - then as you grow, and learn about yourself:
- your triggers
- your reaction to what happens to you
- figuring out who you are, and what you need in your life
- how to function in your healing
- etc

You learn to move beyond Victim to Survivor, and begin to "pay it forward", and share what you've learned with other Victims.

I, personally, believe that is part of the process of growth; but each person must go their own path.

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Aug. 20, 2022

It can be the person "running like a bunny" to make sure everyone around them is happy.

It can ALSO be the person that needs to BE helped, ALL the time.

Different faces/needs, but still the need to control something/someone.

I feel that is at the heart of codependency - and I have been on both sides of the equation.

I find myself in "Codependency Opportunities" quite often. Each time they come up, I have a choice to make.

One of the BIGGEST lessons I have learned, is that I cannot care more about ANY situation, than the people, business, etc, does. When this happens, I usually get completely stressed - because I am being codependent.

When I share these tidbits of wisdom, I am in NO way saying, "I've arrived"; but I am aware when I am successful, or need to try harder, next time. Because that is all we can really do - keep moving forward, and learn from the mistakes we all make.

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.