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Aug. 2, 2021

...the couple my ex and I hung around with had believed me, when I told them about some of the things that happened...

...I hadn't tried so hard to give my kids a "better life than I had" with TWO parents...

...I had listened to my Maid of Honor, when she almost wasn't in my wedding because of a "feeling she had" about him...

...my cousin hadn't married him - would the sexual abuse have happened?

...they would not have gone back, when they made it out...would they still be alive?

...the father could have just been honest with himself, and everyone...would her childhood have been better or worse; and where would she be, now?

...I had been able to care about myself more...

...people would just stop being jerks??!

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE ***www.ozerministriesinc.com*** #walkinTHEIRshoes #EtSoV

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes 

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.

Jul. 26, 2021

Does your relationship make you feel like this, constantly?

While the story of the "Little Engine That Could", is an excellent story about motivating yourself; if you're feeling like you have to live this EVERY moment, or MOST of every day - is it time to re-evaluate?

When any engine runs at a high rate for an extended period of time, it gets a little dangerous. I'm sure this is part of the excitement over events like the Indy 500, etc.

However, when an accident happens, or an engine explodes - or a vehicle, or even a train jumps the track due to speed, it's a horrific event; and often, after careful, pain-staking review, the outcome proves to have been preventable.
This analogy can work for any relationship, really; but in a Domestic Violence situation, it can escalate even quicker.

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE ***www.ozerministriesinc.com*** #walkinTHEIRshoes #EtSoV

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes 

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.

Jul. 19, 2021

...in a relationship isn't abusive - it turns to abuse when one person tries to force or manipulate another person to think or believe exactly as they do. That's where the trouble starts.

It progresses quickly once the other person caves, and allows themselves to start questioning the little things in their lives. It seeps quietly into your thought process; but it feels different than having an open mind to change.

They start distancing you from other friends and family, usually telling you how "uncomfortable they make me feel".

Then, they show up at your job, or pick a fight with you the night before you work the next day, or tell you things like, "That job doesn't care about you like I do; you should quit and let me take care of you."

The list of possible scenarios is endless, but very subtle. You find yourself thinking more the way they do, and less like you normally would - causing turmoil inside that makes you question every thing you do. They just add TO this, by questioning every little thing you do.

Eventually, your self-esteem is pretty non-existent, and you feel trapped in something you don't know how to get yourself out of.

Does any of this resonate with how you currently feel, or have felt in the past in relationships? One suggestion is you start by grabbing a piece of paper, or your laptop, and start a positive column and negative column and evaluate, and see which column describes your relationship better.

Then you need to decide your next step. Remember, YOU are worthwhile...

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE www.ozerministriesinc.com #walkinTHEIRshoes #EtSoV

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes 

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.

Jul. 12, 2021

Do you present your "real self" in every day situations? Be it at work, your house of worship, out with friends, with extended family, etc.

Or are your "Behind the Scenes", a little (or a LOT) different than how you present yourself, publicly?

Why? This probably isn't the first time you have heard this question - either from someone else, or even yourself, honestly.

I encourage you to take some time and contemplate this. Are you ashamed of who you have become, or the life you're living? I, again, ask why?

If the choices you have made in the past, or are currently making for your life, cause you to act differently, or feel a sense of shame, isn't it time to get some answers for yourself?

If you don't believe you deserve the answer to this "Why", I see that as a HUGE red flag. As long as you have breath in your lungs, it is NOT too late for you to make changes in your life, to better yourself.

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE www.ozerministriesinc.com #walkinTHEIRshoes #EtSoV

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes 

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.

Jul. 5, 2021

...I had listened to my Counselor...

...I had shown up to Court to file that order of protection...

...They had WANTED to change...

...I had listened to myself and the boundaries I needed...

...I hadn't let external sources manipulate MY choices...

...I had gotten my kids out, sooner...

...I hadn't ignored those early "Red Flags"...

...I hadn't believed I could change THEM...

...I hadn't tried to fit into what THEY wanted ME to be...

...I had/hadn't taken them to my family event...

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE www.ozerministriesinc.com #walkinTHEIRshoes #EtSoV

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes 

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.