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May. 14, 2022

For our 7th Annual Art Exhibit, I have been thinking about this poem I wrote (but did not submit) for the Art Exhibit, last year. The picture is our theme for THIS year's Exhibit.

My personal goal is to get the info out...hope it makes you think...

 

OH, THE SHOES...

Oh, the shoes that the people wear

Trying to just fit in; having perfect hair

All the hoops that are jumped
Barely able to get by

Many just give up, as they lay down to die

Now, that doesn't happen to everyone

Some people fight it, til their life is done

Taken away by someone, "in their right"

Their relationship goals
To have a partner to fight

With, and dominate - this isn't the way

It is supposed to be, on the day that you say

"I do." "I'm committed." "We shall never part."

But they messily rip out, and stomp
On the heart

Of the one that they "Love"!!!
"No else loves you more!!!"

"No one else will have you!!!"
"DON'T you walk out that door!!!"

But some do, and that
Is THE most dangerous time

Because,
The one that is left behind

Grows angrier, less rational
Fear and anger take over

That their secret will be known
So they stalk them, and hover

Staying just out of sight
Til that moment presents

And they come out, and fight
Growing more and more tense

Often to the death,
Of all involved

They feel that this "problem"
Cannot be resolved

So they take drastic measures
To make sure THEY don't lose

And if the children survive
They just pick up those shoes

And keep on walking
Perpetuate, that cycle of abuse

Which, at times, I am sure
Feels even more like a noose

Not a way to live
Need to break that "Curse"

But until they realize, that
It's more than just "words"

That true healing CAN come
It is NOT the easy route

You must fight EVERY DAY
And keep sharing what you're about

You're a Survivor, and know
That you deserve more

No more walking on eggshells
And being told you're a whore

So until more can stand up
And take back their lives

We stand in that gap
And daily we strive

To spread the Awareness
That this isn't the path

That they have to walk on
Til thru this nightmare they pass

We are here for you
And will be, unto the end

When you can stand,
And YOUR hand, will extend

To help the ones rising
Up behind you, to heal

And know that "love" is not
Just a weapon to "yield"

Keep walking, designing
The shoes that YOU wear

So Domestic Violence is NO LONGER
The burden YOU bear...

Connie R Jordan...
Completed 101020
Based on AADV Art Exhibit 2021 theme, #walkinTHEIRshoes BLOG LINK:
http://www.ozerministriesinc.com/421278968

May. 4, 2022

...you couldn't overcome, and escape your situation?

...they followed up on a threat, and attacked a family member?

...you held your own, and succeeded in getting to safety?

...you couldn't trust anyone to help you?

...they went after your child?

...you can't hide the bruises?

...you cannot handle the injuries that don't show?

...your life changes for the better, eventually?

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Apr. 25, 2022

I heard this discussion on the morning news, recently. The man, in the last 8 years, had worked very hard on his life. Going from nearly dying on the streets, and his Mother, tearfully, telling him she didn't want him involved in her life, anymore; to one of the hottest chefs/entrepreneurs in the D.C. area.

He said one of his business "secrets" was not making himself, OR anyone else live for "His Ego".

This got me thinking about my personal knowledge of Domestic Violence. My Mother, and we kids, basically, lived to feed my Father's ego.

I see it in just about every Domestic Violence Victim I speak to.

The perpetrator's ego, in my opinion, is at the heart of every narcissist's "toolkit"; and boy, do they know how to utilize it!!!

I ask you to look at your relationships, and see if you're living for someone else's ego? Is this really sustainable; or are there changes that need to be made?

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter. what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Apr. 18, 2022

...to be abusive.

I remember one time, a man accidentally clicked the handle on a paint sprayer, spraying white paint dots all over his month-old navy blue station wagon - and my father NEVER swore.

He called him a heck of an ignoramus (over and over) - which was fair, but that was about it.

However, I often saw him eviscerate my Mother with the words he used, just by his condescending tone of voice; and again, NEVER swearing.

It's the motivation of control and manipulation, that makes words abusive.

My own personal favorite, is when someone follows up a derogatory remark with, "You know I'm only joking, right?"; when you take offense to what they said.

My theory is, you do NOT get to tell me if something feels abusive to me, or not - am I right??!

Does any of this ring true with you? What examples of non-swearing abuse have you been tolerating?

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter. what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Apr. 13, 2022

Do you know?

I am asking you to really look at your current situation.

Are you happy with how your life is?

Are there changes that need to be/could be made? Easy is often not an option.

Are you ready? Only YOU can make them...but people are available to assist you. They just need to know how you need them to help.

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter. what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.