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May. 4, 2021

(shared on April 26, 2021)

 

I know, regarding Domestic Violence, that there is always a sense of urgency; but we also need to keep in mind that timing is just as important. 

I'm not saying there are not emergency situations that need to be handled immediately; but, there are also small steps that can be taken, to start with:
- Having an honest conversation with a friend, family member, even YOURSELF, etc. 
- Admitting there IS a problem you need to deal with. 
- Connecting with a shelter, to see what tips they can give to assist you.
- Gathering paperwork you may need if your living situation changes; writing details of abuse, etc - again, if it can be done safely. If not, ask a safe person to hold the information you have collected.

As in everything in life, doing what you can, when you can, is good. 

Remember, safety - yours and your children's is the bottom line. If the process becomes dangerous, talk to the Shelter - they have people trained for this. 

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #walkinTHEIRshoes #EtSoV www.ozerministriesinc.com 

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes  

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

May. 3, 2021

...I had only broken it off, after that first time they hit me...

...I had listened to my friend, and gotten a separate phone, not on their plan...

...I could ignore my heart, for a moment, and take myself out of the equation...

...the kids didn't have to see it all...

...my cat hadn't scratched them, that night...

...Domestic Violence wasn't a "thing"...

...I didn't "learn this from my parents"...

...I didn't FEEL so alone...

Have a good day, and be safe... #EtSoV www.ozerministriesinc.com #walkinTHEIRshoes #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes 

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Apr. 21, 2021

If you had $100, $1000, and $1,000,000, and you couldn't keep it, but HAD to spend it - you had to give it away - what would you do with it?

Hmmmmm...$100 - I would buy...

Then, with the $1000 - I would probably...

Now, that $1,000,000 - this would go great for the church, and property where my house is located, to get repaired, completely; the taxes would be paid ahead. (Me being able to remain in the house, would be only benefit for me - and I would continue to pay my current rent).

This initial question is actually more difficult to answer than you would think. It's easier to come up with a purpose for the bigger amount, than the smaller amounts.  I find this quite interesting.

I think this demonstrates how we all want to do "Big Things"; but if we could do multiple small things, how much of a difference could we really make??!

Even if you cannot "rescue" someone out of their Domestic Violence situation; you can still do smaller things to help them on a daily basis.

- believe them
- encourage them
- what do you think??!

What would YOU do??!

Have a good day, and be safe... #EtSoV www.ozerministriesinc.com #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #walkinTHEIRshoes

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes 

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Apr. 12, 2021

I'm a "problem‐solver". However, in being supportive, it is NOT what "the supporter" needs; it IS what "the supportee" needs - the support, itself. There is a very fine line.

This is pretty applicable to many life, and world situations. I have really been challenged, in this time, to really buckle down and look at myself.

Am I being true to myself, and my beliefs? Or am I still "faking it, to make it", as I basically lived my life for the first 30 years?

As I've mentioned before, there are as many different ways to support, as there are people that need to be supported. If you want to know what kind of support they need, ask - if they say they don't know, just be there for them. I try and share ideas, throughout this Blog; but as I have said before, their safety is paramount.

Remember, support is not solving the problem. You should do what you can; but the "supportee" is responsible for any actions that need to happen.

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE www.ozerministriesinc.com #walkinTHEIRshoes #EtSoV

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes 

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Apr. 6, 2021

...I had watched the kids closer, when they were coloring eggs - maybe they wouldn't have spilled the food coloring all over their work shirt... 

...I hadn't insisted they come to my parent's house for Easter dinner - I knew they didn't want to...they insist my family doesn't like them... 

...I had told them I spent the money on the small amount of Easter toys and candy - maybe, the kids wouldn't have had to bear their rage??! 

...I hadn't asked them to watch the ham, while we were in church - it wouldn't have burned. I know they don't cook, what was I thinking??! 

...I hadn't invited my sister, their least favorite person, to dinner...she just cares about me, and wants me to be safe... 

...I could just enjoy a normal holiday, without all the drama they infuse into nearly every situation??! 

...We had driven separately, like they wanted - I could have had some much-needed family time; and my family wouldn't have "seen them in action"... 

...I was just better with the kids - maybe they wouldn't demean me in front of everyone - at church, at my parent's, at the store, at home... 

Does any of this sound waaaaay too familiar??! Holidays seem to "bring out the best" in Domestic Violence perpetrators... 

Sending you peace, and be safe... #EtSoV www.ozerministriesinc.com #walkinTHEIRshoes #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE 

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes  

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.