May. 13, 2019

(This is a rework of a writing exercise from a Retreat I once attended)

Conscious that
Domestic Violence is
Everywhere. It can be a
Friend, or even your
Help can be lent
In a variety of ways.
Just remember to
Keep their safety first priority.
Let them
Make the choices they
Need to make.
Offer assistance on their terms.
Present them with options.
Them on this
Unfathomable journey of
Victimhood, until they are able to
Work out their new
beYond; to
Zero tolerance of others having power and control over them...

What would YOUR A, B, C's be??! Would LOVE to hear your feedback. If unable to comment on here, please email me at, and I will see that your comment, insights, etc, get posted here. Please put "Response to Ozer Blog post..." in subject line. Thank you, in advance.

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV 

May. 7, 2019

Whether you are aware of it, or not, EVERYBODY KNOWS a victim; even if it's you.

It could be a friend or relative. The cashier or waitress that helped you out, earlier today. It could even be someone at your place of worship. 

You just. Never. Know.

Astonishingly, in this age of knowing instantly what's happening on the opposite side of the world; there are still those individuals that subscribe to N.I.M.B.Y.ism...which is Not In My Back Yard. They actually BELIEVE this is NOT going on in their immediate neighborhood. I just shake my head.

As I was discussing, yesterday, and have mentioned before - am pretty sure Domestic Violence started in the Garden, via Adam & will we ever completely eradicate Domestic Violence, Bullying, Sexual Assault, etc??! Unfortunately no. 

There will ALWAYS be those that are motivated by Power and Control.

Can we stop it for one individual situation at a time? Yes, and thousands over. 

We just ALL need to continue to do what we CAN do...

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV 

Apr. 29, 2019

What does the word "Safe" bring to mind?

From "keeping YOURSELF safe", to being a "safe" person another person can go to; it covers a plethora of situations.

Both definitions can also be utilized in the same event; ie - a Domestic Violence situation - as a parent, you must keep yourself  safe, as well as your children/pets, etc.

Again, I give only minimal examples, because the answer can be so broad. What DOES the word "safe" bring to YOUR mind?

I have told most people I talk to, since 9/11/01, to be safe, before we part ways. This is ONE thing I CAN do. It helps with MY personal security, which is lacking for many, this day in age.

Are you internally safe? Could one wrong move on your part topple your personal security to the ground, crushing your feelings of safety under it's heavy foot??!

I encourage you to REALLY think about this, maybe even journal about it; as it can pertain to every day life - even if you have no obvious external issues to deal with.

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV #SAAM

Apr. 23, 2019

Have you ever moved, and had to live out of boxes until you had the opportunity to unpack? Have you ever traveled, and had to live out of a suitcase for more than a few days?

To me, that is how it feels when someone "boxes me in", or puts limitations on me being my true self. 

This is also how a person in a Domestic Violence, or Bullying, or even a Sexual Abuse or Assault situation may feel. 

You cannot be yourself, and while it may be crucial to your survival; it eats away at you, inside - the lie you feel forced to live.

Doesn't it feel so freeing to feel at home in your surroundings, and not have limitations placed on you??! That is how I feel in most of my relationships; but I do have some in which I feel frustratingly limited. 

Do you feel limited, for any reason, in any of your relationships? At home, or with people you SHOULD be able to be your true self, with? Is it time to reassess some things in your life? Do you feel trapped?

Your situation CAN change; but you have to take that first step. 

Don't you want to live your WHOLE life??! 

April is Sexual Assault Awareness it time to escape YOUR box?

Have a good day, and be safe...

Apr. 22, 2019

I shared this meme last week; but I wanted to elaborate, a bit, about it.

Certain...creatures that draw breath...believe the only way they can get someone to understand what they say, is to...add a bit of...physical "reinforcement", shall we say.

THIS IS NOT THE WAY TWO HUMANS SHOULD EVER INTERACT!!! We are supposed to be the evolved of the animal kingdom, correct??!

You don't carry your child around by the neck, or lick it to give it a bath, right??!

We communicate with words. There are parameters we follow with this, also. NO ONE should ONLY speak to their significant other, or own children via yelling.

If you look at the volume knob on any device; the level goes up, AND down.

The content of what you say, also matters. We were CREATED for relationship - kind words go so much further than harsh words.

Life out in the world is hard enough. Why do we allow another person to destroy the respite of our homes?

There is so much said, in this brief meme. What could YOU add, regarding your experience?  Have you ever, REALLY, thought about it? Did it touch something inside you, and maybe you SHOULD think about it?

Much of what I talk about is in broad topics. My goal is to get people thinking. How am I doing? Are there steps you can take, if this is a problem in YOUR life?

Thank you, have a good day, and be safe...