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Nov. 30, 2021

The Holiday season can be the "most terrifying time of the year" for those living in a Domestic Violence situation.

Extended families want "happy" get-togethers - while Victims just want a safe place.

Children want all the latest toys and fashion - while Victims just want to have their essential needs met.

The Holidays are the most charitable time of the year - but Victims are so worn out, it's sometimes hard to get through a day without another upset, and they have less and less of themselves to give.

Pay attention, in your celebrations, to those that just have "that look". You've seen it before; but in the desire to have such a "perfect Holiday Season", many tend to overlook it.

What can YOU do? How can you help? Is it YOU?

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Nov. 22, 2021

I have been hearing this term used a LOT, lately - and honestly, it's made me think.

I'm sure people have used it regarding me, and here's why...over the last few years, I have separated myself from people that have refused to listen to me after I have clearly, and HONESTLY (I made certain) expressed things that needed to be said to them.

One was right after I lost my Mother. I waited in a "holding pattern" for her to die from Alzheimers, for years. After she passed, I expressed the need to be alone, to grieve and get my feet back under me, until I FELT ready to be with people (besides work; and I did involve my counselor in my decision).

This person expressed, a few weeks later, that SHE "needed to see me, and was kidnapping me for breakfast". I went, but the whole time, I couldn't wait to get home. Upon arriving home, I immediately deleted/blocked them from my life - because I felt my feelings had been completely disregarded.

I realize that I DID make the choice to go, and shouldn't have; but that incident changed my life.

I DO NOT have to keep myself in ANY relationship in which I have to make myself feel "less".

If I cannot be honest, and be my COMPLETE self in ANY relationship, let alone a committed (male/female, male/male, female/female, etc) one; then I WILL pull away.

I read once, "You do not owe anyone an interaction" (I Googled to find source of quote, but was unsuccessful). These words began a major change, that has taken years (btw) of my life to achieve.

My feelings/commitment to that person do not change - I just remove myself from the equation.

Between the loss of my Mother, and the Pandemic, though I have been alone a lot, it's enabled me to achieve more personal growth into the "me" I truly am.

Now, all this being said, have you really been "ghosted" in a Domestic Violence situation; or have they been demonstrating how they really are? Using their "honesty" (cough, cough) as a weapon to abuse you?

As with even positive things, the motivation behind them is what makes all the difference in the world.

So, I ask again, were you "ghosted", or is it really a sign for you to make a change in your life?

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE ***www.ozerministriesinc.com*** #EtSoV #beaware #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Nov. 15, 2021

...for Manipulation...

- sex

- children

- love

- emotional needs

- being true to yourself

- spiritual beliefs

...and the list goes on. Have you ever been manipulated by any of these?

I grew up hearing about the control certain  other countries have over their citizens. I didn't realize it was going on in my own home, until I was much older.

I didn't know exactly what was wrong; but I always felt left out of some "inside joke" by many of my parent's "friends". I know, now, Domestic Violence just wasn't discussed back then. But I still feel a sense of anger for those that knew, and didn't help me, as a child.

My Grandma, and my childhood best friend's family are NOT a part of that. They were ALWAYS there for me; and I felt welcomed there any time I needed to be away from my house.

By the way, any anger I feel is now utilized as a tool to battle Domestic Violence, whenever I can. "The pen IS mightier than the sword." (Edward Bulwer-Lytton - 1839)

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE ***www.ozerministriesinc.com*** #EtSoV #beaware #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Nov. 8, 2021

If you try "jumping in" to the middle of your healing process, how do you think that will work?

I'm not referring to an "emergency/safety" situation.

I'm talking about after the "smoke has cleared", so to speak, and you are FINALLY able to begin to really heal.

If you feel like you're stumbling around in the dark, you sort of are. You are like a seed that has been planted - there is NO side-door, or "quick fix" to the healing process. The only way to true healing is THROUGH.

Many people have said they just "got over" traumatic events in their lives; but if you look closer, can you see the where the trauma shows up, unexpectedly? Do they? Often not.

They just keep going around that proverbial tree, over and over, ending up right back where they always do.

I mean no judgment in this - people have the right to choose; but I have learned I cannot "hitch myself" to anyone (so to speak), that is continually going to end up wrapped around that "tree", again. I have finally learned how to grow; and I have spent enough time wrapped around that tree. Have you?

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Nov. 2, 2021

...people tell you that you deserve it, because you wouldn't listen to anyone before you got pregnant with them?

...they have told you, "If I can't have you, NOBODY can have you!!!"?

...nobody believes what you tell them about your significant other, because, "They're SOOOOO sweet..."?

...they're military, and cannot "switch it off", after their deployment?

...they know you suffer from mental health issues, and use them against you?

...you're afraid to be honest with them, because of getting hurt in past relationships?

...they DON'T care how they act in front of ANYONE...you, your kids, your family, the police, the judge...they think they're invincible (and get away with it)?

Have a good day, and be safe... #beaware #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.