Aug. 5, 2019

Forgive Yourself... (Connie J...)

Did you know you could, and should do this?

Everybody thinks, in situations where abuse takes place, that forgiveness is only to be for the abuser - and that becomes a definite roadblock for most people.

They completely skip over the fact that, usually, the one they're the angriest with (and most hurt by) is usually themselves. For either allowing themselves to get in, or stay in their situation.

Now, think about a 5 year old victim of sexual abuse, by a family member. In their short life, this becomes all they know. They know in their heart, something isn't ok; but they're told if they tell anyone, bad stuff will happen. What does that do to a child??!

Fast-forward 25 years - they are now 30 years old, and still dealing with the repercussions of their 5 year old situation, PLUS the next 25 years of bad choices, promiscuity, and self-harm...at the very least.

Sure, there were some good times, but they were/are always shaded by the underlying darkness of the abuse.

Forgiving yourself is not easy. You can "coulda, shoulda, woulda" yourself for eternity - but what kind of life IS that??!

Take a moment. Is there stuff in YOUR past you are holding onto?  Maybe you feel you don't deserve forgiveness; or there's nothing to be forgiven for. Why? Have you ever thought about it? Is that the truth?

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV