Survivor, as Opposed to Victim...
"A Victim takes things personally." (DKH) They often get "stuck" listening, over and over, to the tapes in their head; being told how inadequate they are, or how they can do nothing right.
If that's all you've heard for years, that's all you can really see.
Somewhere, deep down, inside of EVERYONE, is a glimmer of hope. But if it's so beaten down, for so long; it IS hidden - in that "safe place", where the walls of protection are so thick, it seems NOTHING will get to it.
That is how you "move" from Victim to Survivor - you, over time, work to tear down those walls of protection. It takes time - if anybody tells you it doesn't, well...
But, the work you put into yourself IS worth it - even more so, than the work you would put into your children. That basically comes down to the question, "What legacy do you want to leave for them? Victim, or Survivor?"
Even if you do not have children - YOU. ARE. WORTH. THE. EFFORT. TO. MAKE. THE. CHANGE. from Victim, to Survivor.
Have a good day, and be safe... #EtSoV #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE