Jul. 19, 2021

"Having Different Priorities..." (Connie J...)

...in a relationship isn't abusive - it turns to abuse when one person tries to force or manipulate another person to think or believe exactly as they do. That's where the trouble starts.

It progresses quickly once the other person caves, and allows themselves to start questioning the little things in their lives. It seeps quietly into your thought process; but it feels different than having an open mind to change.

They start distancing you from other friends and family, usually telling you how "uncomfortable they make me feel".

Then, they show up at your job, or pick a fight with you the night before you work the next day, or tell you things like, "That job doesn't care about you like I do; you should quit and let me take care of you."

The list of possible scenarios is endless, but very subtle. You find yourself thinking more the way they do, and less like you normally would - causing turmoil inside that makes you question every thing you do. They just add TO this, by questioning every little thing you do.

Eventually, your self-esteem is pretty non-existent, and you feel trapped in something you don't know how to get yourself out of.

Does any of this resonate with how you currently feel, or have felt in the past in relationships? One suggestion is you start by grabbing a piece of paper, or your laptop, and start a positive column and negative column and evaluate, and see which column describes your relationship better.

Then you need to decide your next step. Remember, YOU are worthwhile...

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE www.ozerministriesinc.com #walkinTHEIRshoes #EtSoV

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes 

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.