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Jun. 24, 2022

...you could make ONE change in your relationship...would it be a worthwhile starting place for you?

...you could build off of that starting place...would you?

...you could realize your situation will not change, until you do?

...you realize you cannot change anyone; especially someone that sees no problem with their actions?

...you could actually be happy with your life, and it be a little less stressful, by making changes?

...you don't make any changes - can you live that way for the rest of your life?

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Jun. 22, 2022

Growing up in a Domestic Violence situation, I developed a keen sense of neediness - which caused me to make most of my choices out of that neediness. Not a healthy way to go, let me tell you.

One of the choices I made was to be with people at all costs, even to my self-esteem, and mental well-being (even physical well-being, at times).

I have also chosen to spend years with people that show no real growth, as people, over a number of years. This can be so draining, and I no longer associate with them. If I cannot be true to myself, I do not want to be in their company.

I was/am not proud of many of those choices I made, when I was younger; though they have helped form the "Me" I am, today.
Truthfully, I would have much rather NOT been that way. But, as I have grown away from my "leftovers", we'll call them, I have grown into a strong person.

You cannot let life keep you down, when it knocks you down, as it always will.

Have you made unhealthy choices, even recently, and feel you can never grow out of them? Do you really believe that, or are you willing to take the steps you need for YOU?

I would LOVE to hear some of your input, on this topic.

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Jun. 20, 2022

...it will take you through the ringer, and back, and usually back again.

That is what's been going on in my life. I have been working through some of worst pain, from loss, that I have ever been through. I apologize to you, that it has affected my writing regularity - please forgive me.

There are many different causes of pain. The abuse perpetrator has experienced pain - it motivates them to hurt others, and perpetuate the cycle of abuse. This is the  unhealthy way to handle your pain.

When/if you are able to remove yourself from your abusive situation, you have an immediate choice to be made. Will you perpetuate the abuse, by allowing yourself to:
- return to the abusive situation
- take it out on your children, or those around you
- allow it to keep holding you hostage

Or will you handle it in a healthy way, and grow away from your victimization?

It is not an easy path; but, again, a worthwhile chance to change your life-story.

What will you allow your pain to do to you?

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

May. 30, 2022

I have been thinking a lot, this year, about memories.

That is the bottom line of Memorial Day - remembering, and honoring, those that did not make it back.

I can't help thinking about those that left a vital part of themselves on those battlefields; but physically made it back.

I mean NO disrespect, but I learned this year, about one marriage that did not survive the military person serving, and coming home, in a smooth transition.

I think this is something, personally, we need to start looking at - and how it affects, and feeds Domestic Violence.

As I have mentioned, before, I ponder things, a lot, before I step into waters that people think I do not understand. But, I do have some personal knowledge of the family history, and can see both sides of the situation. When they come home, they have to "flip a switch" from being in a "dangerous situation" - where if they don't "take care of the problem", immediately, lives can be affected.

I don't know about you, but I cannot switch gears that fast!!!

Coming home from the high-adrenaline situation, they're expected to jump in and take care of the family, in a "normal" way - as mundane as remembering to take out the trash.

Now, I am in NO way justifying this - they need to seek the help that is available, such as on the multiple commercial ads I see, every day - but they don't feel it's a problem. Those ads aren't referring to them. It's like ANY other problem - until you see the problem, it cannot be taken care of. Pride gets in the way.

I wish I could wave a wand, and change could happen - I know it won't.

All this being said, I stand firm in saying NOBODY deserves to be abused.

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

May. 23, 2022

A part of the patchwork of our very existence.

"That dark, shadowy part", we're warned never to go into; yet it is perpetuated, generation after generation.

Sometimes, it gets frustrating. I was told, once, "You're not going to end it." I replied, "Does that mean we don't try to fight it's growth?" I realized, later, that came from a perpetrator.

My parents were married 64 years in a "powder keg".

My cousin was murdered as she tried to make her escape.

We get affected by all that happens around us, yet the cycle continues.

Domestic Violence IS personal to me - and I know it is to many others. Sometimes, my blog posts are a type of "brain dump". But deep in my heart, I want to let people know that you CAN move on from the abuse, and thrive, and share what you've learned with many others.

Even if it affects only one other person, your not keeping it inside is worthwhile - because YOU are worthwhile. Thank you for being, and sharing you...

Have a good day, and be safe... #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.