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Nov. 30, 2020

Have you ever sat and wondered why you do something that just seems to be a part of your very being?

I sort of eased into being a Domestic Violence advocate. As I have stated before, I used to adamantly declare I grew up in a "Norman Rockwell photo-type" family. Yeah, not-so-much...

I spoke to someone I grew up with, recently, and they had NO idea about my family of origin - and our families attended the same church, and were involved in similar social circles. If their parents knew, nobody knows.

That was just the way it's been for so many years - "what happened in your home, stayed in your home"...I mean, I've also stated that it's been around since the beginning of time. Am relatively sure Adam wasn't too excited about Eve's "little faux paux", right??!

My childhood Best Friend's family let me be at their house ANY time I wanted; but she was rarely allowed to be at my house. Our Father's knew each other - actually introduced us, in Kindergarten. They knew, am sure of it; and I am forever grateful, btw.

I want people to be aware of what's going on, right before their very eyes, and for them to change their lives, if they so choose. That is a part of my "Why", which is my commitment to do what I can. That's all any of us can do, really. Correct?

Have a good day and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV www.ozerministriesinc.com #walkinTHEIRshoes

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Oct. 26, 2020

Part of the transition from Victim to Survivor involves taking back the power that you have, probably unknowingly, given to your abusers. Yes, I said abuserS.

Whether you have been in many relationships, or not; the chances are that your power was taken years ago. Probably before you started dating, etc.

How was your childhood? How was your family life? Way into my 30s, even though I knew the truth waaaaay back in my head; I referred to my childhood as "Norman-Rockwell-photo-like". Really??! Not quite!!!

My Father was a Narcissist. I was sexually abused as a child, multiple times, causing me to make many bad choices over the years. The list could go on, but you get the picture. Like I said, the power was taken.

It wasn't until I admitted this - that I realized I carried so much shame for stuff that wasn't even my fault. World hunger? Yup, that was me.

It's a slow process; but someone once told me, "The process is the process." I still, as recently as this month, fell into a "shame-storm". I recognized it, and am working through it. It hits you like a ton of bricks.

I am standing in the knowledge that "You Do NOT Get To...control my life, shame!!!"

You can put any word, or person's name, after "You Do NOT Get To ...".

I hope this inspires you to start the process of taking back your power; and empowering yourself to making any changes in your life that may have been holding you back. Remember, you ARE worthwhile.

Thank you, have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV www.ozerministriesinc.com

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference?

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

Oct. 19, 2020

You fear being home with them.

You never know what's going to set them off.

They act just like your Father did, right before he blew up.

You fear not having dinner on the table, when they walk through the door.

You fear the kids making too much noise.

You pray the dog doesn't jump up on him, again; until he's seated, and on his second  drink.

You don't understand why your Friends and Family keep asking if you're ok.

You pray the makeup works better, this time ‐ last time caused too many questions.

The kids have started blaming you for making your partner mad.

Why can't you just be a good partner, and not ask questions, like, "Where were you?"

You said you weren't going to have a relationship like your parents...

There are days you can do NOTHING right.

You're constantly reminded, "No one else will put up with you, like I do!!!"

What ARE you going to do about it??!

Thank you, have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV www.ozerministriesinc.com

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference?

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.


Oct. 5, 2020

- I had just made the dinner the same way, as always...

- The dog hadn't jumped up on him...

- The kids had just cleaned up their toys...

- I had said no, that first time...

- I had just let him out the door - would he have climbed out that window??!

- I had listened to my Daughter, when she said she felt uncomfortable...

- I had just let him in...

- I had filed charges...

- I had not gone back...

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference?

*I will be sharing a "What If..." posts on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com, or through Ozer, at the website or email, below. Thank you.

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV www.ozerministriesinc.com  ozerministries@att.net

Sep. 28, 2020

I have been asking myself this, more often, lately.

With October being Domestic Violence Awareness Month - I encourage you to ask this of yourself. Do you know, aside from a  Victim, who YOU are?

I am wondering aside from wife, Mother, partner, job title, etc. What makes YOU the amazing individual you are? Do you even realize how amazing you are?

Learning about this, could be the beginning of your healing process;  or a major "growth spurt", if you've already begun this journey.

There is NO time like the present, to start. Take a piece of paper, or a safe app on your phone, and write down everything you can think of about yourself - a column for each, positive AND negative. When you're done, cross off one negative and one positive that could be considered complete opposites - they cancel each other out - keep going til there are no more opposites.

Whatever you're left with, at the end, should be a good platform to start your quest to understanding who YOU are.

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV www.ozerministriesinc.com